YOU ARE VERY QUIET!

YOU ARE VERY QUIET! Yes, I am. And perhaps very boring. But the

joy is that she is enjoying. She Loves Socialising. I Love Wisdom. But We

Love Each Other. Can you be completely happy at a gathering you do not

enjoy, simply because the person you love is enjoying it? It was a Diwali

evening. The lights were glowing, music was playing, and people were

laughing, talking, and celebrating. Dr. Abhishek Gilara’s wife, Deepa,

was happily socialising with friends and acquaintances while he sat quietly.

When someone approached him and remarked, “You are very quiet!”

he smiled. Yes, he was quiet, perhaps even boring in the eyes of others.

But there was something nobody understood: he was not enjoying the

gathering; he was enjoying her happiness.

She loved conversations, while he loved contemplation. She enjoyed being among people, while he

enjoyed silence, wisdom, and learning. Yet both were happy at the same gathering, for entirely different

reasons. That ordinary evening became the inspiration for a deeply personal reflection on love, marriage,

individuality, companionship, and the beautiful happiness of watching someone we love enjoy life. Drawing

upon twenty-five years of marriage, his philosophy of purposeful living, and his reflections on silence

and inner contentment, Dr. Abhishek Gilara explores why two people who love each other need not enjoy

the same things, how quiet acts of consideration can become profound expressions of love, and how happiness

can be discovered through the joy of someone we cherish. Love is not always about bringing down

the moon for someone. Sometimes, it is about sitting quietly beneath the moon while the person you love

enjoys the evening. This is not a book about becoming more social or changing your partner. It is about

discovering that two people can remain beautifully different and still share a deeply fulfilling life.

Because sometimes, the person sitting quietly in the corner is not bored; he is celebrating, and his celebration

simply has no noise. She laughs. She talks. She enjoys. I smile. I remain silent. I enjoy. You call it

boring. I call it love. And perhaps that is one of the most beautiful discoveries of companionship: “I do

not have to enjoy everything she enjoys. I only have to love her enough to find happiness in seeing her

enjoy it.”