WANT TO COMMUNICATE? FIRST MATCH THE PACE.

WANT TO COMMUNICATE? FIRST MATCH THE PACE. To truly

connect with someone, you must first understand their direction and

move at a pace where communication becomes possible. It began with

an ordinary morning walk. Dr. Abhishek Gilara and his uncle were

walking on the same path—but in opposite directions. He wanted to

share a piece of news, but every time they crossed, only a few words

could be exchanged. Then came one simple change: he turned around,

began walking in his uncle’s direction, and matched his pace. Suddenly,

the conversation flowed effortlessly. That small experience created

a much larger question: What if many of our communication problems

are actually alignment problems?

What if your child is not refusing to understand you—but is moving at a different pace? What if your team

is not rejecting your vision—but you have reached in years a conclusion you expect them to reach in minutes?

What if two people are arguing not because their ultimate destination is different, but because neither

has understood the other’s road? And what if the advice you are giving cannot reach someone because your

own life is still walking in the opposite direction? Through everyday observations, family relationships,

leadership, business, mentoring, mediation, and spiritual reflection, Want to Communicate? First Match

the Pace. explores a simple but powerful philosophy: communication is not completed when I have spoken;

it is completed when meaning has travelled. This book asks us to rethink how we listen, advise, lead, teach,

disagree, and resolve misunderstanding. It reminds us that understanding is not agreement, listening is not

surrender, and matching someone’s pace does not mean losing your own direction. It simply means being

willing to reach where another person is before demanding that they reach where you are. Before repeating

yourself louder, ask: Are we moving in the same direction? Are we moving at compatible speeds? Have I

understood what the other person is actually trying to say? Are my actions walking in the same direction as

my advice? And perhaps the most important question of all: Have I tried turning around? Because sometimes

the distance between two people is not created by how far apart they are. It is created by the directions

in which they are walking. And sometimes, one small turn is enough to begin an entirely different

conversation.